Wendy Darling and the Wendy Syndrome

Wendy Syndrome:

  • Wendy tries to avoid conflict at all costs
  • She is a problem-solver, and watches after her two younger brothers as best as she can
  • Always apologizes for things that may not even be her fault, just to make someone feel better
  • Wendy is a selfless person who will make somebody else happy even if at her own expense.
  • The Wendy Syndrome is the feeling of wanting to mother a person and make everyone happy. It is the need to look after others to make sure they are okay.

Character Analysis:

  • General Character

    • Implied to be a girl 12 years of age and having the same physique as Peter Pan.

    • Depending on the version read, whether it be strongly or brief, she is shown wanting to grow up and take on the role of an adult.

    • Always seen with a light blue gown on which, by analysis of the color, suggests that she portrays the traits of health, healing, tranquility, understanding, and softness.

  • Mother Figure

    • She is the eldest of three children, already giving her the feeling of maturity and responsibility.

    • Although Wendy is taken to Neverland so she would not grow up, in the ends she turns into the mother figure of John, Michael, the Lost Boys, and Peter.

  • Relationship with Peter Pan and the Lost Boys

    • There is a tight connection between Peter and Wendy when they first meet.

    • Wendy tries to give Peter a kiss out of gratitude.

    • Wendy acts as the motherly figure to the Lost Boys and her brothers.

    • She reads them stories at night, tucks them in bed, cleans the "house", and feeds them.

Gender Roles:


  • Father

    • Breadwinner of the family and has an important job.
    • Although implied he has a good job, he struggles to support his family.
    • Expects respect and obedience from anyone living under his roof.
    • Stereotypical male: main source of income, need for order, and strong personality.
    • Very sure of themselves.


  • Mother

    • Is seen as a perfect mother.
    • Does not bother her husband when he is busy because she knows he will dismiss what she says.
    • Keeps everything organized openly as well as mentally.

Feminist Views:

  • Much of the play’s assumptions regarding gender essentialism are in line with Victorian attitudes on women’s roles.
  • All of the women share an attractions to Peter, their emotions trapped in a limited range between jealousy of one another and mute longing for Peter.
  • Peter ultimately lures young Wendy Darling to Never Land with a plea that he and the Lost Boys lack a mother. ‘Mother’, in this case, is defined as one who “darns socks”, does the “spring cleaning”, “tells stories” and pines for ‘Father’ Peter.



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